The Second-Guessing Checklist
Five questions to ask yourself before you ask anyone else.
Next time you catch yourself about to ask someone else what they think, pause and ask these first:
Do I actually not know, or am I just afraid of being wrong?
These feel identical in the body. But not knowing means you lack information. Fear means you already have an answer and you're scared to stand behind it.
If no one else weighed in, what would I do?
Not the responsible answer. Not the impressive one. Your first instinct, before you started managing how it would look, is usually closer to the truth.
Whose voice am I hearing right now?
A parent. An ex. A follower count. Naming whose voice it is doesn't mean disobeying it. It means choosing that, instead of following it automatically.
What am I afraid will happen if I trust my own answer?
Say it plainly. Being wrong. Being judged. Being alone in the decision. Named specifically, most fears get smaller.
Has anyone else's opinion ever actually made this easier, or just louder?
Sometimes it's real information. Often it's just collecting permission, asking the same question to five people, hoping one finally says what you already believe.
A place to start
Pick one decision you're currently second-guessing. Write out your answers to all five questions, specifically for that one. Not in your head. On paper, or in the notes app, somewhere you can actually see it back.
You'll likely find the answer was already there. What was missing wasn't clarity. It was permission you were waiting on someone else to give you.
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A Bonus, While You're Here
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